Why Men Should Learn How to Dance

Every straight guy loves to do the horizontal mambo with a woman , I’d be no exception. But there is more to life that just sex. If all you’re focused on in life is getting laid, you’re missing out, on a lot. I bring to the table the idea of learning to dance.

By dancing, I’m not talking about table dances, or sexual grinding at the club. I’m talking about waltzes, tango, salsa, ballroom. Old school shit that made life worth living. The male and female dynamic of flawless motions, fluid as water. elegant and refined.  A mature symphony played out by man and woman.

Do you want to get good with a woman? Learn to dance. Again this is a character builder. Most women not all, love to dance. It makes them feel free and it’s expressive. It’s all around a positive thing. You will get exercise from it. Can you say winning? Dancing will tone up your body.

You will learn how to lead a woman on the dance floor, which is a preamble to leading them in life. It will take your mind off of negative things in your life even for if it’s just a short time. Dancing was a huge deal in the good old days of the 20’s up until the disco era. It’s a shame it went out of style.

It was a way to make a night out with your special girl just magic. Who wouldn’t want a pretty girl that looked and smelled great on your arm. Twirling her around with high energy . Wonder why women this day and age love Dancing With The Stars?

Dancing is competitive and battling it out with you girl against your best friend and his girl made the night even better. And girls are competitive too so put it to good use.  Dancing is also about having a good time with friends and meeting new friends.

I will put on a cd of Benny Goodman in my surround sound when I have home dinner date and get to stepping with a girl, just to make the night that much better. Dancing will set you apart from the other schmucks that just want to bang her as well.

Dancing lessons are pretty pricey but I’m learned in bars when the female bartender I made friends with also taught dancing for free. I’ve bought DWTS videos and just copied their movements. I’ve danced not knowing what I was doing and  guess what? I survived the embarrassment to live and tell about it.

Don’t be afraid to learn new things, you just might find you become more fun and interesting .

 

 

 

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Avoiding Black Widows

Black widows are death to a man’s life. I’m not speaking of the black widow spider. I’m speaking about the black widow type of woman. The woman who lives to destroy a man’s accomplishments. She goes against everything he is trying to build. Avoid these women gentlemen. They’re out there.

When you first meet a women, and she’s talking about herself sometimes she will give you clues about what time of woman she is. LISTEN to her and BELIEVE  IT. This is probably the most honest thing she will ever tell you.

My ex -wife told me who she was (red flag 1) and I was too young and inexperienced to pay attention. She told me many times that she came from a family of black widows. I thought challenge accepted. I was a dumb ass as a kid. I would always go after the damaged women and the challenges.

I’m too old for that crap now. I used to have the patience of a saint with women because I came from a family of good women. I thought naively and I soon learned my lesson. I spent 15 years with this woman until I had enough.

You see she already had two kids. (Red Flag 2).  Some time passed and I find out she’s pregnant. I know the baby was mine because she wasn’t a slut and did have good qualities. I was a dumb ass but I wasn’t completely stupid. So we move in together and that’s when I saw the first part of the screw ball in her.

I figured , o.k. women can be difficult, and she’s pregnant, no big deal. I’ll handle it. Women are a handful as it is and I knew this going in. Now , dating a single mom is even more than a handful. There are things you don’t see right off the bat. Things you will soon discover.

At first you are a father figure and the mom doesn’t mind you helping pay for things. It’s when you become a disciplinarian that she begins to have issues with. I’m not an abusive guy , never laid a hand on her kids. Never said abusive things to them. I treated them like they were my own.

I did however have expectations of her kids cleaning up after themselves and doing regular chores, turning the lights off when the exited a room. I expected her kids to not stand there with the refrigerator door open for 20 minutes to decide what they wanted to eat. Mom cleaned up after them and refused to train them.

I was called controlling and mean by mom. (When a woman uses the word controlling and your are not controlling, it’s time to eject boys.) I wasn’t controlling I was raised and trained. There’s a difference. The fun continued and I stayed because of my own kid who would be born soon. Bad judgment there fellas.

We would go around this mulberry bush a millions times more. I soon found out that this wasn’t me and her against the world , it was her and her kids against me. O.k. then , game on , I’m gonna beat her at her own game. I did everything to outsmart her. I installed light timers. I stopped buying so much food.  She told me, you’re not their father , you’re not their disciplinarian, you’re their friend.

I thought to myself o.k. I’m not their father, and she was right. It was a relief, I could stop paying for dumb shit. Birthdays, don’t have to buy gifts anymore. I was elated. I only have my daughter to pay for and I’m gonna do it right with this extra money now.

She advanced her attack and cut me off from sex, let her kids jack up my furniture and lent out my tools, that were never to be seen again. I worked incredible hard for my money back then, and wanted a nice place we could all enjoy. I bought nice dishes and Tupperware type stuff for our left overs. Little by little these things were disappearing at an alarming rate.

Sometimes within the same month of purchase. I was livid. She wasn’t going to beat me. I’m 10,000 times more stubborn than her. I stayed for my kid. That was a bad idea. I was stressed out to the point I could barely walk, I had a boss who was always flexing his muscle at work (I’m going write an ebook about it “How to Train Your Boss”).

My truck had broken down and I had at the mechanic’s shop. So I had to ride the Loser Crusier-The city bus. It was a 2 hour ordeal  transferring from a westbound bus to a northbound bus and then another 2 hours to get home. One night a drunk started some crap on the bus which made my miss my other bus. I was pissed because it was the last bus of the day.

I had to walk from there 6 miles. By the time I got home, I was exhausted. My feet hurt and I was famished. The wife said there was a pizza in the oven and I said o.k. I grab some pizza and sat down to eat. She lit right into me. She said ,”this neighbor at the end of the street had a car you can borrow, go down there and ask her if you can use it.” I said,”As soon as I’m done eating, I will.”

That’s when she really went off, I don’t remember a word she said after that. I just felt nothing anymore. Furious yes. She was was screaming something and I knew right then , I didn’t care for her anymore. She was done. I was done. There was anything worth fighting over anymore.

I had enough of the bullshit. My health was bad because of the stress. I moved out. She moved in homeless couple for Christmas weekend. 20 days later they are still living there. I told me daughter grab your stuff , you’re going with me. What the hell was her mom thinking?

I didn’t know these homeless people and what they were capable of. They damn sure are not going to molest my kid. We were out , back to my place where my daughter could be safe. Mom got the message and kicked the homeless couple out.

By this time I was numb inside, and I was numb for about 4 years after that. I started taking care of me.  I went to bars and got drunk a lot. My buddy from work was a great support and my room mate. He was going through a hard time with a useless woman too.

There is 15 years worth of stuff like this that went on but I’ll spare you all that. The lesson is LISTEN to a woman when she tells you who she is. I ended up winning but war, but at what cost, it was a senseless. She wanted me back, well of course she did, I’m a winner. But I was done.

Watch out for the black widows fellas.

 

 

 

 

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A Man’s Haven: The Barbershop

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The history of the barber goes back to the bronze age, where razors were found in 3500 BC Egypt. Barbers were for most part surgeons and dentists at first. They did a wide variety of services.  I won’t get into all of that. I want to talk about the value of the barber shop in a man’s life.

The barbershop is different from a salon . Salons are geared toward women and children, mostly women. Salons have female hairdressers which are great to look at but there’s something missing. There’s no atmosphere for men to be men, you have watch what you say, and its a pace of get you in get you out kind of thing.

A barbershop on the other hand is a gathering place for men, a place to bolster your ego, make friends, be supported by other men, exchange ideas, a place to get away from a nagging woman. Not to mention a place where men can be men.

There’s nothing like a hot steamy towel on your face gentleman, and electrical clippers don’t hold a candle to a the skillful hand of barber using his straight razor on your neck. There is nothing a salon has that matches the way you feel after leaving a barbershop.

Looking clean, feeling fresh. Smelling incredible and it lasts for days. The talc brushed on you enflamed pores is nothing short of fantastic. A barber who knows what he is doing is a lifelong friend in my eyes. The prices are usually cheaper than a salon as well.

If your a Great Clips or Super Cuts kinda guy , I highly suggest trying out you local barber shop ,you wont be disappointed. Leave the salon for manly pastures (I only salon when I want to hit on the hot hair dresser or am too busy ).

This is one of those manly traditions that should never have fallen out of style. I hope you try it out and make up you own minds. I’m sold on it and there’s no changing my opinions. Stay fresh gentlemen and I’ll meet you again with the next article.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Do Whatever it Takes to Get Where You Need to Be.

When I started this blog I was working two jobs, a full time job at a trucking company and a part time at a paint company. I was working 70 hours a week.  I literally went from one job to the other with enough time to eat something, change clothes and have a cigarette. When the work day was over most times I would just fall asleep.

I worked six days a week and started writing on the 7th day. I was paying off debts and starting to tread water , rebuilding my credit and stacking chips (saving money). I paid off a pickup truck and bought two more vehicles in the time span of two years. One of those vehicles was a motorcycle.

The motorcycle was cheaper to operate and I was an everyday rider. I rode in the rain, dust storms, the winter cold and the summer heat. I had to save my money and I was already making a lot of it. The money was starting to grow. I was loving it.

I can’t speak for anyone else but that feeling of buying something new that you worked hard for doesn’t even compare to the feeling of accomplishment of not buying something new and holding that money like a hostage and seeing the pile grown bigger and bigger. (Run on sentence)

It was a new found discipline I became really good at. I also became great at keeping my expenses down (I plan to write an ebook about it , so stay tuned in). I had goals and I was going to achieve them. Nothing was going to stop me.

I always wanted to be an entrepreneur since I was little boy. Call it internal drive or the influence my dad gave me the few times he was around. Either way I was going to make it. Financial freedom . I was going to make it and I was going to do it without breaking the law.

You see I have had a shady past which I grew out of but I have encountered people who had no qualms about breaking the law. One guy was a musician on the weekends, making $5,000 in cash in 2 days. Problem was, he wasn’t paying taxes on any of it. He had to get a part time job at the paint store I worked at to prove to the IRS that he was paying taxes.

This young men is called an empty victory. If you have to break the rules, you don’t really win, you just cheat. I on the other hand outsmart the system and still get the victory. I still get the money. I still get the Armani suits and the brand new appliances.

Yeah, I had to bust my balls to do it for a few years but now I own my own business. I make my own money. My confidence level is higher because I didn’t quit and I didn’t have to cheat to do it. I have an iron resolve and I ran the full race. This is what builds character gentlemen.

Character is what makes a man , a man. I have always had this belief that having  job dependent on an employer was less manly than owning the company. I don’t do well getting up early to fulfill someone else’s dreams, especially if they are already wealthy and dreams achieved. I don’t do well taking orders from people less intelligent that me.

In my experience most people in authority roles in the work force are not qualified for their position. I’ve had many bosses that were not cut out for leadership and only held their position because it made their lives more comfortable. A cushy job they didn’t have to do too much manual labor.

These people continue working in these cushy positions and haven’t grown or been promoted. To me that’s stagnating. To me that’s not living up to a man’s full potential. I don’t care though, not my life. I’m not knocking a 9-5 job. You do you , if that’s what you want than go for it. For me though I want better.

I want the freedom to create and make other peoples lives better. I want the money to help the unfortunate and make a difference. I want to live a great life and help others live a great life.  The best way is to hustle for it.

 

 

 

 

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The Value of Keeping Quiet

King Solomon once wrote , “Silence is Golden” and with dealing with women, it’s the most important part of your arsenal. Women know this and will clam up in a heartbeat. Never show all your cards. Sometimes the best response is no response.

This keeps you mysterious, it keeps you in control of frame. Mastering the art of silence keeps you out of trouble. If you don’t say anything, you don’t have to explain anything. You keep silent , you don’t have to apologize for careless words you said.

You keep silent , you don’t have to cover up any lies you may have told since you never lied. Silence is golden gentlemen. With silence there is no promises broken, because you didn’t commit to promise anything.

We as men trying to build our character don’t want to break promises. We want to be men of our word, and when you stay silent , you won’t break your word. There is less sticky situations to get tangled up in and you give yourself time to reflect and think it through. This is what true leaders do.

Silence keeps you from insulting someone when they say something stupid. This is a tool you need in your toolbox, not just dealing with women but society as a whole. In the film ‘The Godfather’ , Marlon Brando as Vito Corleone, admonishes his son Sonny when he speaks before thinking, “Never tell anyone outside the family what you’re thinking again.” Silence is golden gentlemen.

Use this tool often and make it a part of you.  When people don’t know what you are thinking they can’t use it against you. This a very powerful social skill add it to your toolbox of navigating the social settings you are in.

 

 

 

 

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Moral Obligations to Humanity

I invented a weapon. A weapon that would revolutionize the firearm industry and the ammunition industry. This weapon would be cheaper to make, it wouldn’t rust and the ammunition could be found fairly easily. I could make billions if I decided to mass produce it.

I tossed it around in my head as to how quickly I could get a drawings made up and patents filed. I invented this weapon for the purpose of hunting, ducks, elk, deer, buffalo, etc. It contains no lead in the ammo so wildlife poisoning wouldn’t be an issue, but as I thought and thought about it.

I realized that unleashing this on the public or even worse to the government could be disastrous. I couldn’t give these people this weapon, they cant even tell the truth or balance a budget. I didn’t want to be the guy who came up with a better way of killing people.

We have a enough killing going on and because something can be created and be profitable doesn’t mean that it should be created. I feel a moral obligation to keep this weapon contained in my mind until I enter the grave. I have invented a lot of things and will continue to invent.

In my experience if I don’t act on an invention someone else will have the same or similar idea and will act on it. I hope this is not the case in this circumstance. I just can’t in good conscience create a weapon that could upheave a lot of lives. The lesson I’m trying to drive home is think before you act.

A new found fortune does not necessarily mean you did a good job. Sometimes making a lot of money is curse not a blessing. Let’s be better to one another gentlemen.

 

 

 

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Why Classic Movies are Important for Men

Classic movies are pure gold in many ways. I’m talking about the Ted Turner , TMC network type of movies, the black and white , leading man and woman. Men in suits , women in dresses. These movies can teach you a lot about life . There was purpose and structure to life back then. They can teach you how dress and , how to interact with women, they can teach you values. The list is endless. I will give you a few that I like

Ththis dvd set leading-men-film-collection-20-movie-set-dvd_1000TThis dvd set I bought on amazon for $5 , it has twenty films so its a great buy , although there a few fifilms on it that I wouldn’t consider great. But the film on here is a film called “That Uncertain Feeling” , The husband runs game on his almost cheating wife and makes he come to her senses. Every guy should watch this one.

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Another film I recommend is Gone With The Wind, if you can stay awake for it, it’s along flick and the only real interesting part is the scene with Clark Gable. Better yet just get shorter flicks with Clark Gable.

clark-gable-399715_960_720Clark Gable was known to be one of the most masculine men in Hollywood and this was even voice by a woman , he was pretty serious with. Learn from old movies gentlemen. They’re cheap and they are way better than the CGI liberal garbage  seeping out of Hollywood these days.

The Clothes Make The Man

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The old saying “Clothes Make The Man” is partially true. It takes more than just clothes to make a man but clothes are an important part. If you look back through the history of the modern world, you will see a correlation. The suit and a successful man.

No man who wears a “Fuck Trump” , “Who Farted”, “I’m With Stupid”, or a Legend of Zelda t-shirt seriously in public will ever be majorly successful in this life. Maybe it’s says something different , doesn’t matter. What matters is taking pride in your appearance gentlemen.

Every single successful man written in the annuals of history wore a suit. They were taken seriously. They were respected, at least for a while unless they made irreparable damage to their reputations.

My point is , care about how you look. People judge you instantly on how you look.  You maybe a great guy. You maybe a serial killer. If you don’t care about your appearance neither will anyone else. Fact.

I was shopping in a grocery store before the beard trend started and I had a full on beard, Duck Dynasty full on. My clothes were clean but I was wearing a t-shirt and jeans. I was picking through the chicken wing  hot case . One of the ladies that worked there ran and told someone a homeless guy was trying to steal chicken wings. That someone was my wife , who just happened to work there.

My appearance wasn’t on point. I could have gotten the beard lined up and groomed and wore better clothes. I wasn’t homeless, I wasn’t a thief.  The lady didn’t know that. All she saw was my appearance.

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Take pride in how you dress , gentlemen. People talk and with people being so untrusting and socially dependent. It can cause you a lot of problems, unwarranted problems. You don’t always have to wear a suit, but the details matter.

 

 

 

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Welcome To Sons of Single Moms

Since the dawn of the Sexual Revolution of 1960’s-1980’s things in the western world have been screwed up. One of those screw ups was fathers in my generation who left their sons to be raised by the mothers. Mothers give a great influence to a young boy but she can’t teach a boy how to be a man.

Even if she is independent and empowered ,she has no clue what a boy goes through. Here  we will answer any questions you may have and hopefully you learn a thing or two. cropped-sona-1.jpg

Growing up I was one of those boys left with a single mom. So I know where you are coming from. I had  questions to be answered but not a real father figure to speak of, who could answer them.  What was the man’s role? What are manly behaviors? What is a man not supposed to do? What is my part in all this?

It didn’t help with feminists, and others blurring the lines. Some groups like to muddle things and blur the lines between what is right and what is wrong. Currently they have turned the normal ways of society on its head. We as men need to restore it back to its normalcy.

We intend for this site to be for all men, a community of masculinity, helping each other become better men.  Iron sharpens iron , like one man sharpens another man. This gentlemen is our lodge, our locker room, our cigar club. There will be no censoring of free speech, you can be a man here. Let’s just keep it above board.

In each article we will tackle all the questions you may have on manhood. If by chance wee don’t solve a problem or a question you need answered. If there is something you would like to see written about or something you would like to share with other men ,  Contact us at sonsofsinglemoms@gmail.com

 

 

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